ADHD

How much do you guys struggle with eye contact?

I’m trying to learn more about the feeling that I’m not doing something right and that my priorities are wrong because I’m not considering the full picture.

Am I overestimating just how much they will help me?

I recently made a post in this community about how ADHD has caused me to lose a lot of relationships over the years through forgetting to stay in touch, and a lot of you guys resonated with the post (145 upvotes!)

Not diagnosed with anything but struggle with executive functioning.

I genuinely care about my friends and family, but I forget to stay in touch and it makes me feel awful.

It hasn’t been that much longer of a break for me (4 and a half day weekend), but new years doesn’t usually have me going to several dinners like Christmas or Thanksgiving and I actually got some really good rest, but I’m extremely upset at the idea of going back to work, it doesn’t help that I don’t like my job, but I’m too the point that I want to breakdown and/or quit. I’ve had similar experiences in school, and I’m curious to see if others have this or just me

Does anyone else experience variation in what the effect of their meds feels like?

I thought I’d make a list of all the useful dopamine maxxing tricks Lemmy shared with me in one place. I have actually tried some of them, and I detail what worked for me below the list.

Happy New Year ADHDers!

i tend to be a bit of a yapper, very loud (theres an interesting reverse-masking thing going on there, which if anyones interested, lmk and ill explain) and tend to be quite rude.

Comment with one of your worst dopamine hijackers; something which takes over and hogs your dopamine system, and on New Years Day I’ll go through the comments and rank the top ten on how many upvotes they get and edit this post with the results as well as make a new post. Maybe even make a New Years Resolution based on it!

I have been trying to get into writing short stories as a hobby. I have a couple of good ideas. But I tend to struggle when actually putting my thoughts to words.

I was just diagnosed with ADHD this summer so I’m still figuring out what helps with areas I struggle in. One of them has always been active listening. I did okay in school as long as I had a notebook–better if I had written lecture notes–but I was never great at languages and the times where I had tests with only a listening section to rely on were consistently my worst ever in school.

I realised today that I cannot actually remember the last time I felt relaxed. I’m so fucking tired.

I wrote this as a long comment in reply to this thread and I was proud of it, so wanted to share it further (Shout-out to the OP of the meme, @LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone , who is a wonderful presence wherever she goes)

Recently, by accident, I set the subtitles of some anime to Spanish, and to my surprise, for the first time in who knows how long, I could focus fully on an episode. Tested over the days, and indeed it was helping.

Anything that helps increase your will power and dopamine levels.

I’m not really sure if I have adhd or not at the moment and I just realised this. I’m not sure if this is related to adhd at all but I just find it weird looking into peoples eyes, when I listen to people I usually look out a window or something and sometimes people ask me weather I am listening and I didn’t even realise I was looking out a window I kind of just assumed they knew I was listening.

I told my friend I was learning music. She asked what I was trying to learn, so I said music. She asked what in specific, so I gave her the current list. She thinks I’m kidding.

Hi everyone! This will be a bit long sorry.

I would give anything to move abroad, but im into little to no things it takes to actually do so. And when I read about it, it seems a bit reasonable, but I lose all interest and motivation right there. Doubt myself and the usual.

For those of you who use meds, in particular methylphenidate:

I am trying to get back into watching hockey again, but the digital rink board ads are making it surprisingly difficult. When they slide or flicker my eyes snap to them instead of the play, and I end up losing sight of the puck, especially when it goes behind the net.

there’s a million different strategies on how to function well with adhd, and some of them even work. but every single time i encounter the same problem - even if something works and improves my quality of life it’s always short lived. i get distracted or something happens that throws me off the rhythm and then- i can’t restart.

My natural instincts seem like all the things you need to avoid with an avoidant partner like overwhelming intensity of feelings, going all in, oversharing, excitement, showing raw feelings etc. I was wondering if it’s even sustainable.

Yeah, what the title says.

Pretty much what the title says. Also, how long does it usually last for when it happens?

I don’t really know who to talk to right now and posting here seems a good idea.

Is it an ADHD thing to need time alone more than neurotypical people do? And if so, how do make sure you get it?

Thought experiment:

I have a problem that every time i want to start new hobby, i cant work on it for long enough time to develop it into a habit. I quit the hobby i started even less than one month after starting it, even if i am excited and interested in working on it for a long time.

I have ADHD, and my therapist has confirmed it, just like the results of ADHD tests. He isn’t bad, he greatly helps me with my depression. However, he doesn’t provide an official diagnosis nor prescribe pills.

My brain is melting. Ain’t slept in two days, should be asleep now. Obviously I don’t think this person should have a driver license but that outcome will hit me.

I started using the hourly chime on my wrist watch and found it helps ground me. The trouble is the chime can be disruptive at night, and it’s tedious to turn it on and off every day. I’m hoping to find a clock (not a wrist watch)– of decent build quality– with an adjustable chime (volume and active window). I don’t care if the clock mechanisms are mechanical or not, so long as the chime is pleasant.

I was diagnosed with ADHD a few weeks ago, ive been put onto the waiting list for titration to start meds but it looks like its still gonna be a few months. I could really do with getting my meds asap as ive got exams and coursework coming up, anyone have recommendations for stuff to help with keeping me focused? I’m currently just downing monsters like they’re water whenever I need to do work

Normally, when I have a day off I stay in bed until the afternoon. I don’t leave the house and nothing gets done. Have hard time figuring out what to eat when I eventually get hungry.

… because I comment more times in a single day than I normally do over weeks.

Hi. I wonder how do you keep following through on your ideas/goals/topics that you want to research (in specific field or some niche idea/interest) and not burn out/get bored and forget about them altogether?

Ever since I connected my executive functioning issues to my ADHD, I’ve realized yet another hurdle has been added to my efforts to do shit: the idea that I am helplessly useless at doing things and that’s how things are. I literally end up paralyzed with fear at the idea I’ve internalized that I am simply bad at doing life, which makes me do bad at life.

I have a problem that i cant focus on my tasks for a long time. I cant do my work for long time per day, neither do it periodically every day.

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I took 30mg of Vyvanse about 4 hours ago for the first time. I am undiagnosed and this medication was not prescribed to me, but I hope it’s ok to post here.

Hi, as the title says I’m a new developer and some days ago I was diagnosed. My diagnose journey started because I’m unable to be consistent (That’s not something new) and it is making me really depressed.

Realising more and more how this is related to my ADD.

(my context: I feel like my ADHD is a bit close to AuDHD, but doesn’t have the consistency to make it on an official psychological evaluation. I experience a feeling of being ‘broken in the head’ to some degree. Examples include being fine with eating the same favorite meals for over a month, at least once a day. Sometimes twice a day. Another example would be the starting and stopping that I do. This applies to E V E R Y T H I N G, outside of the human basics.

Every morning I spend 12 seconds making a ranked list of priorities for my day so that I can hyper focus on something else.

Further exploration on the topic of Autistic burnout and it’s connection to psychosis.

Hey there,

What's the likelihood that my crashes in the afternoon after lunch are from ADHD vs MECFS? I take Ritalin 5 hours before lunch, it doesn't boost my energy other than getting me awake in the first place.

I've never been so busy, I made the life altering decision to go back to college at 30 to get an engineering degree. I generally like math and I love building things and messing with electronics, it should be the perfect fit. But after starting at calc 2 and now doing 5 or 6 classes full time, working, and planning a wedding. I feel like I'm stretched thin.

I have used many methods in my life, couldn't get enough of finding and trying more and more. And some worked, even pre-diagnosis.

Like a budget hard drive after 6 months use, my memory is shot. I feel like I can barely remember anything.

My ND NT husband will just like, play a game every once in a while when he feels like it. He'll just pick it up every so often, maybe play a few days in a week, and then leave it be again for a while to come back to later.

I have never been able to set goals. Mostly because I'm working on 100 projects at once. But also because a goal could get changed by something outside of your control.