Ask Men

I’m a 27 year old single mom with a 12 year old son (Yes I was 15 when I had him) and I got out of a physically/sexually abusive relationship with my son’s biological father a few years ago. I haven’t had any serious relationships since then, but recently I’ve been feeling kind of lonely and exhausted since I work two jobs and take care of my son. I was planning on getting back into dating, so I was wondering if I could get a man’s perspective on how to navigate dating as a single mom since most men aren’t willing to take on my “baggage” (Hate this term). I’ve been hit on quite a few times by men my age in public places when i’m alone on the street or at the gym, but when I tell them I have a kid they seem to be immediately disinterested. (Not necessarily blaming them)

I’m a 21-year-old from a lower-middle-class family, and ever since I finished my intermediate studies from a College (Pakistan) in 2023, I’ve carried a dream in my heart: to walk the leafy quad of a reputable university, to laugh with new friends in the cafeteria, to stay up late talking about life—and to build a future on my own terms. This wasn’t just my dream; it was my mom’s too. I carry her hopes with me every time I sit down to study.

How do you even deal with this, it's like competing for everything, job, dating basic necessities etc. You slip for a moment and you will be replaced.

So I’m looking for a new set of beard/other clippers as my current one finally fell apart after almost 20 years. I’m looking for a professional, corded one that you can put different size guards on. So Lemmy Men, what are you using?

I have heard people say "would you rather share your emotions with a woman you know or a tree in the woods", but that doesn't really feel like it's an equal question in my head. I am curious if anyone has a better example of the "mens" version of that question.

I need a male perspective on this.

Feel free to also elaborate on life goals that you have achieved or failed to achieve, and how/why that happened!

Just curious since I turned 40, my morning wood has increased. I get this almost every night.

I have been on TRT roughly 2 years and do 140mg/week of test cyp. Overall it has been life changing. I originally suspected something was off about 4 years ago and fought with my primary care doctors about getting tested for low t. My results came back at 150ng/dl with the “normal range” being 240-750ng/dl. After the results my doctor tried to put me on anti depressants. I told them to screw off and called a clinic the next day.

I got these Hanes x-temp things that several years ago that were the best I'd ever had, but they've changed them up so they're mostly plasticy now.

I'm a man in my 40's, moved to a new area and trying to make friends. A guy I've had lunch with a couple of times and we've connected pretty well. I'm not getting disinterested vibes when we're actually at lunch. However, I've invited him to lunch 3 times recently, once each month, and he's not responded. He's responded to other texts. "Hey, I'm going to event XYZ, any advice" and he'd reply. I've run into him at the grocery store twice in that time period and he's been genial. He's never offered/initiated lunch or anything, but that's not new. (No one ever asks me to do things, I'm The Organizer.) I'm getting really, really mixed signals.

I know this is a weird question. But I'm just wondering. Please don't kill me.

Is there any?

I have a deep urge to be independent, but I think my mind has taken it too far. I want to be able to make everything myself, I want to do all from machining, to electronics and plumbing to bricklaying to programming.

Did Andrew Tate really involve in rape and human trafficking? He claimed not a woman charge against him indicating that he wasn't involved, or did he?

Feel free to highlight people from both reality and fiction - and why they make a good role model.

Hey!

I am seeking a new fragrance/quality in my aftershave lotion/splash. I have tried the traditional ones like Brut, Aqua Velva, Old Spice, and Nivea Men.

What are some of the non-sexual pleasures men enjoy? For example, I like saunas and soaking baths with salts and scented candles.

I have this thing where I see a random person on the street, in the store, or in the park and it makes me picture what it would be like to be together with this person, to build a house together, have pets together, live a life together. I try not to stare as I walk past and go about my day.

In our current day and age, it's rather hard to meet new people and make new friends, particularly for those of us who do not participate in mainstream social media. So, how and where do you meet new people? Feel free to add some context around that.

pizza? flowers? a card?

I'm a long time subscriber to Dollar Shave Club and have been using their Executive Razor for years. They recently changed to a new Club Razor, that is frankly pure trash. I tried giving it a month or two, but every time I use it I just get mad about how shitty it is compared to their old ones.

We have all seen posts of men not understanding women's anatomy. How have you experienced this the other way?